This eBook, unlike any other eBook, on the market, talks about one of the very real reasons why men became notorious for not paying maintenance and it is written from a "non-paying-dad's" point of view. This is the reason why I did not pay the full maintenance and I also believe it to be one of the main, if not the main reason for withholding maintenance. It tells my story, why I became a "non-paying-dad" and why I stopped being a "non-paying-dad" Not even

2 High Court orders to pay maintenance

My wife using "arguably the best" divorce lawyer in the country

The sheriff of the court confiscating all my possessions

My wife and her lawyer trying to deduct the maintenance with a garnishee order from my salary

My wife and her lawyer trying to deduct the maintenance with a court order directly from my bank account at ABSA

My wife making molestation claims of my daughter against me

My wife not allowing me to see my daughter because I was not paying maintenance

My wife and her lawyer trying to get a court order to put me in jail

My eventual sequestration

could force me to pay the full amount as ordered by the court in maintenance.

This eBook is for men and women

Nowadays, after the divorce, I do pay maintenance and more than the court ordered. I pay maintenance because I love my daughter; I always have and always will. At no stage was my love for her different, even when I was withholding maintenance payment from her mother. And no, I never molested her as even that was used as part of the tactic to try to force me to pay, and for keeping my daughter from me. Even my wife allowing me to see my daughter afterwards could not force me to pay maintenance. Contrary to the image presented to the court, I am not a monster. I am an ordinary, middle-class father who wants the best for his daughter.

I am writing this eBook firstly for women because I do not want you to make the same mistakes my ex-wife did. Whoa! Hang on...women making mistakes? It is usually the men who are the bad guys...sitting with the money and the women and children who have to suffer because the rich dads do not want to pay maintenance. It is the women who have to go to court, stand in long queues, fill out countless forms, and then the non-paying dads vanish and you cannot get any maintenance at all...Sounds familiar...then read on.

Bad Advice

What I am talking about is listening to bad advice e.g. staying in the house because you were advised to, not settling when your husband wants to, making unrealistic demands on his salary. Yes, I know your lawyer might tell you to do the complete opposite, but your lawyer was never sequestrated and he did not lose his house and all his possessions to creditors leaving nothing for the wife.

This eBook is also about how to change the "non-maintenance paying" dad into a "maintenance paying" dad. It is presented as a series of questions and answers. What I suggest in the answers might differ radically from what your lawyer advises or even what a court orders. Am I wrong or are they wrong? This question you have to sort out for yourself by using logic and basic common sense.

This eBook is also for men to know what can happen to you during a court case, to see the danger signs and to take action.

The reason for non-payment is nowhere documented. As far as I could determine, no court knows about it or even acknowledges its existence. So am I dreaming? Was it just I? The men filling in the questionnaire on my web site say otherwise. They say that I am not dreaming and I am not alone. This is a very common occurrence.

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